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me! I then realized that I am not the only woman who has
this problem with trying to figure men out and to get what we
want out of them! First, I have to figure myself out. Just when
I think I have myself figured out to what I want...someone
proves me wrong! -- W.
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The Acclaimed Book: How To Be The Woman Men Adore
and Never Want to Leave by Bob Grant, LPC
When a woman is in love with a
man, she can feel fully "in tune" with him - and love that
feeling of
knowing him deeply. According to Bob Grant, author of
The Woman Men Adore and two
other books, she has a strong urge to act on these feelings by making
her man's life better.
"All her intuition is focused on 'What can I do to be helpful to him?'
"She is also more likely to become attuned to his wishes and his moods.
She might anticipate what he wants. It is an empathetic skill that few
men master - or, to be honest, really even want to.
"It might seem that men would appreciate this characteristic and never
want to leave them. After all, what could be better than having a woman
in your life who is trying to please you?
"For a man, the problem arises when a woman overuses this gift."
Women too often feel that the sheer power of the feelings they have plus
the fact that they know their man so well should mean that he will
respond lovingly and gratefully to such a giving woman.
Then they feel frustrated when this does not happen - and perhaps
outraged when his next girlfriend or wife seems to not care one bit
about his needs, yet he seems to be madly in love with her.
What's wrong with this picture? Should you deny those glorious feelings
of wanting to show your love, of wanting to give? No - that would be
denying yourself. The key is to know when and how much to give - and how
to give so that men can receive your giving.
An email I received yesterday said in part:
Dear Mimi,
I was that woman. I tried to please my guy too fast and too
soon, and I did everything under the sun for him, even loan him
money to pay for bills and help him...
To that reader, take heart and forget that man. Your giving nature can
be an asset in the right situation and at the right time. Thanks for
sharing this.
From another reader:
Dear Mimi
I am one of your new readers and I do like the way you put your
words. This one is me: too much giving. It's not that I do it
for him to love me more or to keep him, it's always been me
since I was a little girl. I love to share and give to anyone
for a reason and no reason.
Thanks for that email. Giving is important to most women. We women need
to take time to examine how we give, when, and how things work out for
us. One of the most important ways to make giving work is to choose your
recipient wisely, whether we're talking about men or any other
situation.
Thanks to Bob Grant for sharing with us part of his new book "How to Get
Your Man Back" - you can read about it here:
How Do You
Know When You Are Giving Too Much In Your Relationship?
by Mimi Tanner, Author of Calling Men -
The Complete Guide to Calling, Emailing and Text Messaging the Men You
Date
As most women
know, when you give too much (and too soon), it can backfire, even
though you mean it in the best way.
Men in particular can often be turned off by a woman who gives too much.
It can be the beginning of the end of what began as a passionate and
exciting new love.
However, author Bob Grant explains WHY overgiving turns a man off (yes,
even if you are married). I was completely surprised by the answer. It
is a part of his new book (previewed at the following link)
This advice will help the next time you are tempted to give too much -
because when you remember the REASON it turns men off, that will
definitely make you hold back on the over-giving. Bob Grant explains
that overgiving can actually cause a man to see you as too controlling!
Is that a shocker? Well, it's true!
Many women are overgiving out of fear of loss. Fear does not lead to
smart actions.
Even though you don't expect anything in return, he will feel that you
do - because the scales will not be in balance. It's not about keeping
score, but it is about respecting a man's feeling of obligation when a
woman gets heavy with the giving - doing favors for him, running errands
for him, buying him big gifts, and so on.
Focus on having fun. Don't start cooking up
ways to give to him. Let Being With You be the greatest gift you have to
share. You do not need to do things for a man or give him things to
prove your worth or to create feelings of love in him for you - and deep
down this can be a motivation even if we don't see it.
Always remember - men really enjoy giving to you! They feel far more
love for you when they are the givers than when you are the giver.
